Why are you in your current relationship? Seriously. Ask yourself this. Are you happy?
If the answer is anything but an enthusiastic YES! then you really need to re-think some things.
Okay, so maybe I’ve had a little too much Prozac in my day, but at least, you should be happy with your partner and enjoy their company despite their
many, many, many flaws.
All of these points are from experience. If you find that you’re here, then good on you. You’ve decided to take the first step to either fixing or breaking off your relationship. Remember, do what is best for you.
Always check out the comments and contribute your own ; we all have experiences to share.
How to tell if its time to leave your relationship
- You feel depressed – This is a good warning sign. Take a look around you and try to figure out why you’re depressed. It’s easy to beat yourself up, but there’s a saying out there:
“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.”― Steven Winterburn…or dating one.
- You find yourself not wanting to go home or you’re stalling – I did this a LOT. I was always at work late because I found that I didn’t want to go home. All that was waiting for me at home was a messy house that I had to clean, I had dinner to make because no one else would help and of course, I was in so much pain from my Fibromyalgia that I could barely make it home on transit.
- You feel worthless – When someone makes you feel like you’re nothing, there’s a problem. You are not a piece of furniture; you’re a person with feelings, needs, and wants. Oh, yeah, and there’s something else called RESPECT.
- You’re the only one contributing to the relationship – Or at least that you feel this way; this may be because you both have different expectations of the relationship. Sit down and talk about it. Seriously.
- You disagree on the larger issues – You want kids, but he doesn’t. He wants to get married eventually, but you don’t want to be tied down. You want to live in the country while he’s a city boy. One of you is making a rather sizeable compromise. This makes the person that is compromising feel cheated and that’s never good in any relationship. I would say that it’s time to have a nice sit-down with yourself and ask if these issues are deal-breakers for you.
- You’re afraid of your partner – Afraid of their reaction if a plate broke, or even afraid what would happen if dinner isn’t ready right when he gets home. This is not healthy. You should not have to live in fear.
- You’re being abused – Please understand that there are many forms of abuse. You can be subjected to someone else’s substance abuse (alcoholism is a great example), emotional (withholding love and affection), mental (mind games), or even physical abuse. If this is happening, please get help! Tell someone that it’s happening. Hell, comment on here and I’ll see what I can do to help you.
- You aren’t communicating with your partner – This is a big no-no in a relationship. Open communication is the way to go, but if there is more broken telephone happening than not, it’s time to re-assess the situation. Maybe tell your partner loud and clear, I’m outta here!
- You hate your partner more than you love them – If hate is easier than love, then you really need to get out. Maybe get a pet. You know, something that doesn’t leave dirty dishes around the house: A turtle! When you can say, “I’m going to kill you in your sleep” and really mean it, then it’s really time to get out before you have to have someone watch your pet turtle because you’re in jail.
- You don’t love them anymore – You feel nothing like love for your partner. It’s hard to admit, but usually you have a nonchalance when it comes to the other person. You just don’t care. If this is the case, then why are you still in that relationship?
Notice the YOU statements. This is intentional. By placing yourself in your partner’s position, you’re only allowing yourself to guess how the other person is feeling. Please don’t do this. You can only ever judge yourself.
You can only ever control yourself.
When did you know when it was time to leave your past relationship(s)?