I was finally on Dear Abby – after months of waiting for a reply about my situation, I finally got one. At least in 20-20 hindsight, I know I did the right thing.

There really needs to be no backstory other than the name of the gentleman that I was involved with was Trevor.

Here’s the response:



DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half. I regret moving in with him when I did, which was after only three months of dating.
We have been through a lot, including my struggle with various health issues. Throughout this he has become an insensitive person who treats me like garbage. There has been a lot of emotional abuse happening, and it has taken me quite a while to be able to see it.
The other night I was about to break up with him. Then he suddenly changed his tune. He said: “I’m listening. You’re right. I need to change. I love you.”
 Abby, at this point I really don’t care, but I gave him another chance. Was I wrong to do that? He has changed for now — quite drastically — but I know he could easily go back.
I no longer love him. I also no longer find him attractive, and I actually think he’s immensely annoying. He’s trying to get me to fall back in love with him, but I really don’t want to. So do I stay or do I go? — WAVERING IN CANADA

DEAR WAVERING: Re-read the last paragraph of your letter, and you will see in your own words why it’s time for you to go. He may be trying, but frankly, it is too late. Pack your bags. There’s nothing deader than a dead romance.


All in all, I did walk out on him. After everything, I packed my suitcase and I walked out. It was the hardest and the best decision I’ve made in a long time. I’ve left behind two beautiful kitties whom I love very much and also two nieces and a nephew that I doubt I’ll ever see again. Being Aunty Alesse was the highlight of the relationship – that’s really no reason to stay in a relationship though.

If you were in my shoes, what would you have done?